Stories We Tell Ourselves, or, The Narrative Fallacy

Whatever you cling to, it is not that. – Pema Chödrön

A gentle reminder for me not to get attached to the stories I create, or the perspectives I hold. I read Chinua Achebe’s wonderful book, When Things Fall Apart, many years ago and it still has a special place in my life. It’s one of those essays you mentally bookmark and reflect on when things get difficult.

All progress starts with telling the truth and the worst battle is between what you know and what you feel. We create our own narrative, all the while everyone else is creating theirs. It’s no wonder we experience confusion and disagreement on fundamental aspects of our shared reality. It’s because our narratives diverged long ago and we didn’t realize it within the protective bubble of stories we tell ourselves. Life is mainly about bridging the gap between reality as constructed by our minds, and reality as it really is.

When you consider how hard it is to change yourself, you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.

Despite all of life’s little obstacles, nothing makes me happier than a great cup of coffee in the morning.